on babies and birthing
Sometimes I want to take my facebook news feed and throw it through a window.
It baffles me how many expectant moms (usually young ones) will post a status 6+ weeks before their due date that says something to the effect of “I am SO sick of being pregnant – I hope he/she will come early!”
All I can say is you have no idea how badly I want to throttle them. Whenever baby number 2 comes along (not for at least another year, so don’t hold your breath just yet ;] ), I pray to God he or she will bake for 40 or more weeks. I know it’s uncomfortable… my Asher belly was HUGE, even at 28 weeks – he was oversized for his age and I had waaaay more fluid than is typical. I don’t care, though. Four months in a NICU will change your outlook on a lot of things. Heartburn? Bring it. Swelling? Fine with me. It’s all worth it.
Having a baby prematurely? It’s no picnic, friends.
So yeah. I see these updates and they make me angry, because these girls are squandering away a beautiful time, and they have NO IDEA what it is they are hoping for.
For that I suppose I can grant them mercy… after I whack them with a clue-by-four.
the wife
the husband
Looking forward to seeing you big and happy at 40 weeks pregnant whenever the time is right!
I hear ya completely. While I didn’t have preemies, I did have early babies (a 39 weeker and a 37 weeker) and so many times I wished I’d gotten the chance to go ‘overdue’. If my firstborn hadn’t decided to come early, his daddy would have been at his birth. My secondborn was evicted (quite reluctantly on my part) due to growth restriction. I wasn’t ready to stop being pregnant in either case.
It makes me even angrier to see girls with hyperemesis screaming to evict their babies early. Yes, HG is a bitch to live with, but your babies only get that time in the womb once. There are no do-overs and it *will* impact them for the rest of their lives. I can live with that misery if it means giving my baby a better start and overall quality of life.
Anyhow, yeah, I totally can relate.
oh i cannot agree with you more! I am currently praying for a little preemie named Henry in Indiana. He is 6 weeks old and just got off the vent. He won’t be “full term” until February.
UGH! I would never wish anyone to have a baby early!
Well said–so many people have no idea the risks involved with pregnancy until they experience it first hand or know someone who has.